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Be Thankful November 17, 2016

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Hard to believe but next week is Thanksgiving.  I like many will be celebrating with family so I there will be no post next week.  Not that I have been very consistent this year.  (Hey – there’s a resolution for 2017 get better with the blog posts Rob!!)

Take some time over the next few days and think to yourself – What am I thankful for?

Think of all the wonderful people you have met along your journey.  Remember the “journey” never really ends.

Think of those you have helped along the way – there are probably more than you realize.

Look at your family – how blessed are you to have them and how blessed are they to have you?

Appreciate the gifts you have been given and the talents you have to offer.

Remember there are many in the world who are less fortunate, we all have much to be thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving.

My thanks to you for reading.

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Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers March 24, 2016

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Here is one of my favorite posts.  I wanted to re-post this so you may either enjoy it again or enjoy it for the first time.

Until next time….

Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a
day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front
of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and
empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then
asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between
the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They
agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the
entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between
the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends
and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they
remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and
your car.

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all
your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the
things that are important to you.

‘Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend
time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with
grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to
dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and
fix the disposal. Take care of the golf ball first—the things that really
matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.
The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows
you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a
couple of Beers with a friend.’

Give Thanks November 19, 2015

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Hard to believe but next week is Thanksgiving.  I like many will be celebrating with family so I there will be no post next week.  Not that I have been very consistent this year.  (Hey – there’s a resolution for 2016 get better with the blog posts Rob!!)

Take some time over the next few days and think to yourself – What am I thankful for?

Think of all the wonderful people you have met along your journey.  Remember the “journey” never really ends.

Think of those you have helped along the way – there are probably more than you realize.

Look at your family – how blessed are you to have them and how blessed are they to have you?

Appreciate the gifts you have been given and the talents you have to offer.

Remember there are many in the world who are less fortunate, we all have much to be thankful for.

Happy Thanksgiving.

My thanks to you for reading.

Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers January 29, 2015

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Here is one of my favorite posts.  I wanted to re-post this so you may either enjoy it again or enjoy it for the first time.

Until next time….

Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a
day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front
of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and
empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then
asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between
the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They
agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the
entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between
the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends
and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they
remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and
your car.

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all
your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the
things that are important to you.

‘Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend
time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with
grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to
dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and
fix the disposal. Take care of the golf ball first—the things that really
matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.
The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows
you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a
couple of Beers with a friend.’

College Search/Job Search How Very Similar November 13, 2014

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I spent this past Monday and Tuesday visiting colleges in Pennsylvania with my wife and daughter.  They had visited two of the schools over the summer but for me it was my first time and like the job search first impressions and finding the right fit are everything.

The colleges ranged from 8, 500 students to 16,000 students and the towns they were located in followed a similar pattern with 3,000 on the low side to over 300,000 on the high side. Not unlike companies you may target during your search.

Campus representatives were approachable, friendly and outgoing, the students all seemed happy. One stop along the way seemed a bit on the “stuffy” side for me.

As I said at the opening I was struck by how similar this was to the job search.  You do your research to develop your target list.  Initiate contact (express interest, send a resume) and get a meeting (interview) where you can learn more about the requirements for the “job” and get a feeling for the culture.  Could you spend a good part of your life here?  Does it feel right, is it a fit?

All along the people opposite you are thinking the same thing.   Does this person have what it takes to be a success here?  Do they fit in with our culture?  Do they have the traits we desire?

Along the way you ask questions.  At the end you send a thank you letter to each person you spent time with expressing your appreciation for their time and reiterating why you think you are a fit and why you would like to go (work) there.

At the end of it all you receive and offer (acceptance) and after careful consideration (and maybe some additional negotiation) you make a decision.  With that, the next chapter of your life begins.

Until next time…

 

Now You Know August 15, 2013

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In my last post “You Never Know” I told a story of how my daughter was not selected to be part of a U17 premier level soccer team and the immediate disappointment, anger and sadness which resulted from this decision.  I related this to finding out your job has been eliminated or the unexpected difficulties you face during the job search.

To quote I said:  One of the things I try to live by is “everything happens for a reason” or “when one door closes another opens.”  

I closed the post with “Like life, the job search is filled with “you never know.”  How you handle these situations is what will set you apart from the rest of the crowd.”

A few days after receiving the news she was not part the team my daughter received a phone call from the coach.  He told her it was one of the hardest decisions he’s ever had to make but after a lot of reflection he made the decision he felt was best for the team.  But listen to this, he also said it was the best decision for her.

Why?  Because he had spoken with the coach of the U18 team and recommended he consider adding her to his team, which he did.  He did this because he knew my daughter would get more playing time on the U18 team than the U17 team.  For soccer players who want to play in college the U17 (HS Junior) year is the most critical year so the more playing time you can get the better.

How does this relate to a job search.  Just think for a moment.  You interview for Job A for which you feel you are immensely qualified.  Maybe you have 2 or 3 interviews, further improving your odds of getting the job, only to find out a week or so later that you did not.

No matter who you are this always results in disappointment maybe resentment, anger.  But as I said how you handle this situation can set you apart from the crowd.  For, as in my daughters case you may never know for sure why the decision was made.  More importantly, you do not know what may be happening in the background.  Is the hiring manager you interviewed with talking you up to one of his peers because you may be a better fit there?  Maybe he is recommending you to someone he knows at another company, one that was not on your radar where you may get more “playing time.”

Learning how to handle disappointment in your job search whether at the moment of realizing you are now unemployed or at any other point during your search can have a direct effect on future outcomes.  Handling setbacks (there will be a few) with a positive attitude and as a learning and growth opportunity will help position you for future success and shine through in the way you approach your next interview or meeting.

Don’t believe me?   Ask my daughter……..

Until next time….

You Never Know August 1, 2013

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My daughter just finished 3 days of tryouts with her Empire United Soccer team.  She has been with this team since November 2012 and with the organization since 2009.

Last night at around 10pm  she found out she did not make the team this year.  Talk about being surprised, devastated, angry.

Do any of these feelings sound familiar?  If you have been laid off or part of a protracted job search chances are you have experienced the same emotions.  Come one now, I’ve been laid off three times and each time I’ve experienced one if not all these emotions, its human nature.  It’s how we handle ourselves during these situations that can help shape our future.

One of the things I try to live by is “everything happens for a reason” or “when one door closes another opens.”  In my daughters case if she does not play soccer this year it will give her knees a chance to rest, the continuous practice takes a toll after a while.  She loves the sport so much she cannot bear the thought of sitting out, so a forced sit out may indeed help.

When you find out your position has been eliminated how do you react?  What do you say to the person who has the unenviable task of telling you and perhaps dozens of other people that they no longer have a job? Do you react with calm and sense?  Do you cry?  Do you get angry?  How you react in that spit second could have lasting effects on your career.

Regarding your job search, how do you handle a set back?  You’ve been through 2, 3 or 4 interviews only to find out you did not get the offer.  What do you do?  Step back and look at what you could have done differently? Do you scream and yell?  Do you make excuses?  Do you ask your interviewer for feedback (if they are willing to provide it?)  Do you decide to take a class or brush up on some skills? Whatever path you take can have a direct effect, negative or positive on your future.

What do you do when you are facing a challenge setting up one-on-one meetings?  You’ve run into a string of people either unwilling or unable to meet and you feel as if you have been at this for so long that something is due to break. Do you alter your tactics?  Maybe change your approach?  Do you just decide to give up and surf the job boards all day instead?

Like life, the job search is filled with “you never know.”  How you handle these situations is what will set you apart from the rest of the crowd.

Until next week….

Memorial Day May 24, 2012

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I am going to depart from my normal theme this week.  I received an email this morning from one of my vendor/partners wishing me a happy Memorial Day.  It’s not everyday you get a message specifically targeted to Memorial Day.  Most of the time we hear about it on the news as “The official start of summer” along with coverage of parades, interviews with veterans and reminders of what they have sacrificed for us.  All good stuff.

What struck me about this email wish was how it completely wrapped both the idea of the start of summer and the gratitude we owe our veterans into a single powerful message.  I hope you  enjoy it as much as I did.  (Thanks to the folks at RES Exhibits for sending this to me) If the text is difficult to read click on the image.

Until next week….Enjoy and remember this Memorial Day weekend.

What do You Focus On? September 1, 2011

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Pick up the paper, check your Twitter stream or scan the entries in your Google Reader account and you will inundated with a ton of information.  For instance today I saw the same article three different times online and in print.  Each had a different headline and a somewhat different angle on the story.  One I perceived as positive and the others a bit more negative.  I chose to Tweet the positive one after I read it, choosing to ignore the ones with the more negative “feel.”

I chose to Tweet the positive one because I am a big believer in the “self fulfilling prophecy”  and if I can have even a little bit of a positive effect on someones attitude maybe, just maybe it will be enough to encourage that person to change their attitude or outlook and maybe even share the information with those in their network.

Which choice would you make?

As a bonus this week I thought I would include an inspirational story for you to think about over the long holiday weekend.  For some this may be a repeat, even then its a good one to revisit.

Enjoy the long weekend.

Until next week….

Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a
day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front
of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and
empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then
asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between
the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They
agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the
entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between
the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends
and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they
remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and
your car.

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all
your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the
things that are important to you.

‘Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend
time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with
grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to
dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and
fix the disposal. Take care of the golf ball first—the things that really
matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.
The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows
you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a
couple of Beers with a friend.’

Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers January 27, 2009

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I received this email the other day and thought it most appropriate to my current situation. I copy it here for your enjoyment. It provides a great perspective which I think we can all benefit from whether employed or not. I hope you enjoy it. I plan to print it and keep it handy for future reference.

Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a
day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front
of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and
empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then
asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between
the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They
agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of
course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar
was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the
entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between
the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends
and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they
remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and
your car.

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all
your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the
things that are important to you.

‘Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend
time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with
grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to
dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and
fix the disposal. Take care of the golf ball first—the things that really
matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.
The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows
you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a
couple of Beers with a friend.’